Category: Cold Approach

What To Say When Approaching A Girl You Like

When it comes to initiating a conversation with a girl you have just approached, it’s not all about saying the right words, but also about maintaining the right body language. Keeping the correct posture, maintaining eye contact, and smiling.

Assuming that you have the latter part covered, let’s first concentrate on deciding how to perfectly initiate a good conversation.

The things you say to a girl indicate a lot about you, things like how honest you are with yourself, how you choose to present yourself, and how well you pull it off.

Keep these thoughts in mind when you go through the basics of how to initiate a conversation.


1. Manage Your Expectations

Here’s the biggest mistake men make while preparing to approach a girl. While it’s obvious that they, by all means, want to talk to girls, they always hold themselves back with the excuse of “waiting for the right time”.

This is a classic case of performance anxiety aside from the fact that they’re also feeling peer pressure to do so. If you’ve ever found yourself in the majority of guys who also feel the same way you do, have you ever given yourself time to actually reflect on the face as to why this happens?

Well, for a lot of guys it’s just the fear of rejection, which is in all honesty, quite understandable. Rejection sucks, nobody likes to be rejected no matter what they are trying to do.

So, what’s the solution to your problem? The key to countering performance anxiety is to initially set low expectations. The biggest mistake men make is to set their expectations so high that they themselves struggle to keep up with them. So, keep your expectations low and keep it simple.

By the correct management of expectations, you neutralize the effects of rejection and in turn, allow yourself to think as clearly as possible.

Now how exactly do you manage your expectations? And what does it mean when people ask you to manage your expectations?

When you are good at managing your expectations, it means that even when faced with rejection you’re able to accept the outcome without overthinking and making a fuss about it, while also appreciating the joy and thrill that you faced while doing it.

This indicates that you have a strong sense of self-worth and do not let external opinions affect you. You should also check out John Anthony lifestyle review. He teaches more about how you can have simple but amazing conversations with women that ends up in multiple dates. The best part? You don’t have to do anything fancy like the other dating coaches talk about. Just simple everyday stuff and you will be surprised how much of a difference that makes.


2. Be Observant

The first step in approaching the woman is to know for sure what exactly you’re up against. Now, what does that mean?

Let me explain, suppose you’re in the nearby supermarket in order to buy some groceries. Would you just purchase the very first fruits you’d find?

No, you would obviously go through the produce, check the quality of each commodity and then purchase the good one’s am I right?

You most certainly do not want your apples to have bashes, abnormal holes, or mold accumulation on the surface. So why would you want a girl with those things? Oftentimes, the best way to initiate a conversation with a woman is to keenly observe her beforehand and make some judgments.

Do you need to ask yourself if she’s the girl you’re looking forward to dating? Would she be willing to have a conversation with you, does she seem to be in a good mood or rather distracted? So observe her very well before you go ahead and shower your charm on her.

The judgments that we make about other people are often our personal projections made at that very moment that really tell us more about ourselves than them, so when I ask you to judge others, needless to say, I use this phrase with caution.

If someone appears to be rather unsociable at the moment, please don’t judge them to be prideful or arrogant, chances are that that person is purposely setting up a social boundary around themselves to take care of themselves.

We do not know what the other person must have been through so act responsibly.

Similarly, if a person appears to be too friendly and extroverted and their behavior triggers a traumatic experience within you where you felt rather shut off.
So please don’t let your superficial judgments and observations take charge of your actions.


3. Try to do it with a Wingwoman

For some people, it’s easy to just walk into a bar or a club all alone and strike a conversation with the utmost confidence and pick up a girl right away. But the others rely on having a wingman who eases the tension between the two.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to have a wingman, but think about it, what’s more important than having a wingman? A wing woman of course! As the name suggests, a “wing woman” is basically a female friend who accompanies you and helps you approach girls and strike up a great conversation.

Having your bro by your side is good, but having a girl by your side is inherently better.

Having a girl accompany you is the ultimate proof that you are safe and approachable for other girls to approach her as well.

aving a good repo with girls is indicative that you’re capable of being friends with a girl and don’t behave inappropriately.

This also indicates that the guys are able to distinguish what he needs is a friend and what he needs from a relationship so when such a guy approaches her, she knows for a fact that the guy knows what he needs and is apparently a keeper.

I hope that this article was helpful and has helped you have a much better understanding of what to keep in mind when approaching a woman and how to make it big in a single attempt.

Albeit, also a better perspective as to what’s going on in the girl’s mind and help you understand girls even better.

How To Approach A Woman On The Street

It takes time and effort to truly master the art of approaching a woman in the street. The idea of approaching a woman out of nowhere in the middle of a busy street can most certainly and understandably be intimidating.

One of the major reasons why guys hesitate from approaching women is simply because they are not confident enough as to what the outcome could turn out to be.

Oftentimes, we find ourselves to be in embarrassing situations and then unfortunately end up facing rejection. This happens because while we’re very ambitious about our motives we don’t put enough time and effort into practicing our skills.
Albeit, men who truly put time and effort to master the fundamentals of how to approach a girl no longer face that issue. If you are also looking forward to learning these fundamentals and putting the effort into approaching a woman, keep reading this article.


Maintaining Eye Contact

Approaching a woman that you don’t know is always easier once you know that you’re invited to do so. And the best way to get an invitation is through eye contact.

Once you find the girl that you wish to approach, before approaching her, the first thing you need to do is try to catch her attention by making eye contact with her.

Once you catch her attention, there are two things that can happen, either she looks away or she holds eye contact.

Now, if you happen to be in the first case scenario, then I’m sorry to say she’s not interested. She’s probably committed or looking for someone else, so if she looks away immediately, please move on, because then if you approach her you might appear to be a stalker, which is not good.

Now if you find yourself in the second scenario, there’s a good chance that she might be interested in you. What to do next? Don’t worry, don’t let anxiety show on your face, relax and give a casual smile. This will prove to be helpful for making the perfect first impression.

You’ll appear to be confident, relaxed, and a funny guy.


What Is The Best Way To Cold Approach A Woman?

Now you’ve taken all the right steps, you’ve caught the eye of the woman and she responds well, what to do next?
The next step is the approach.

A perfect approach relies heavily on your body language, so as you approach a woman, keep your back straight, keep your shoulders relaxed, and smile in a relaxed and confident manner.

Girls are much more responsive and inclined to have a conversation with you if you are confident. Hence approaching a girl with the above-mentioned body language will show her that you’re a friendly and confident guy.

This really helps, as the biggest mistake men make is falling prey to anxiety during their approach. There’s not a bigger turn-off for a woman to see a man approaching her in an increasingly anxious manner. It shows that you’re not clear with your intentions and have no confidence whatsoever.

And in the worst-case scenario in your failed attempts to approach a woman while anxious, you might end up looking like a stalker and she’ll be creeped out by you.

What’s worse than an anxious approach? Not approaching at all. The biggest mistake a guy can make is to not approach her at all!

The idea of approaching a woman can be scary and if you’re not confident enough you might start overthinking to the point that you lose your confidence altogether and end up not approaching her at all.

We often convince ourselves that this is not the right moment and choose to wait for the “right moment” to come and end up doing nothing at all.

Now how to counter these flaws? A great trick that has always worked for me is following the three-second rule. According to this rule, once you’ve succeeded in establishing eye contact as seen above, you run a timer in your head.

Make sure in your head that you have to approach this girl within three seconds, this will motivate you to walk up to her as soon as possible and you automatically appear confident to the girl as well.


How To Stop A Girl On A Busy Street?

Approaching a girl in a busy street is understandably trickier than approaching a girl in a bar or a club as there are high chances that the girl must be busy on her way to work and you approaching her would slow her down and she starts seeing you as an inconvenience.

So how do you approach a girl on a busy street? Simple, just follow these steps,

1. Never approach a girl from the back, you need to make sure that your interaction seems as natural as possible, so my suggestion would be to stand 8 to 12 feet ahead of her, and approach her as soon as she nears you.

2. While interacting here, maintain strict eye contact, if you keep looking everywhere else this sends out a signal that you’re nervous which you do not want. Keep in mind that you have to look as confident as possible, so maintain eye contact as much as you can.

3. Now once you approach her, and have started interacting with her, keep in mind that you don’t get too close to her, maintain a respectable distance from her. You’re asking her out for a date, and not kidnapping her so she should feel like that.

So, make sure that you keep an arm’s length distance between her and yourself.

4. Now when you stop her, do it by saying something casual like “Excuse me” or “Hey can I talk to you for a sec” as it feels more natural and not too invasive.

In the end, approaching a cute girl on a busy street is the same as stopping someone if you have lost your way and needed directions.

The only difference is that you’re not actually looking for directions anywhere, you’re just looking forward to having a friendly conversation which may or may not lead to a date (depending on how well it goes).

I hope this article was helpful to you and you now have a clearer perspective as to how to approach your dream girl and ask her out on a date.