What To Say When Approaching A Girl You Like
June 25, 2021
When it comes to initiating a conversation with a girl you have just approached, it’s not all about saying the right words, but also about maintaining the right body language. Keeping the correct posture, maintaining eye contact, and smiling.
Assuming that you have the latter part covered, let’s first concentrate on deciding how to perfectly initiate a good conversation.
The things you say to a girl indicate a lot about you, things like how honest you are with yourself, how you choose to present yourself, and how well you pull it off.
Keep these thoughts in mind when you go through the basics of how to initiate a conversation.
1. Manage Your Expectations
Here’s the biggest mistake men make while preparing to approach a girl. While it’s obvious that they, by all means, want to talk to girls, they always hold themselves back with the excuse of “waiting for the right time”.
This is a classic case of performance anxiety aside from the fact that they’re also feeling peer pressure to do so. If you’ve ever found yourself in the majority of guys who also feel the same way you do, have you ever given yourself time to actually reflect on the face as to why this happens?
Well, for a lot of guys it’s just the fear of rejection, which is in all honesty, quite understandable. Rejection sucks, nobody likes to be rejected no matter what they are trying to do.
So, what’s the solution to your problem? The key to countering performance anxiety is to initially set low expectations. The biggest mistake men make is to set their expectations so high that they themselves struggle to keep up with them. So, keep your expectations low and keep it simple.
By the correct management of expectations, you neutralize the effects of rejection and in turn, allow yourself to think as clearly as possible.
Now how exactly do you manage your expectations? And what does it mean when people ask you to manage your expectations?
When you are good at managing your expectations, it means that even when faced with rejection you’re able to accept the outcome without overthinking and making a fuss about it, while also appreciating the joy and thrill that you faced while doing it.
This indicates that you have a strong sense of self-worth and do not let external opinions affect you. You should also check out John Anthony lifestyle review. He teaches more about how you can have simple but amazing conversations with women that ends up in multiple dates. The best part? You don’t have to do anything fancy like the other dating coaches talk about. Just simple everyday stuff and you will be surprised how much of a difference that makes.
2. Be Observant
The first step in approaching the woman is to know for sure what exactly you’re up against. Now, what does that mean?
Let me explain, suppose you’re in the nearby supermarket in order to buy some groceries. Would you just purchase the very first fruits you’d find?
No, you would obviously go through the produce, check the quality of each commodity and then purchase the good one’s am I right?
You most certainly do not want your apples to have bashes, abnormal holes, or mold accumulation on the surface. So why would you want a girl with those things? Oftentimes, the best way to initiate a conversation with a woman is to keenly observe her beforehand and make some judgments.
Do you need to ask yourself if she’s the girl you’re looking forward to dating? Would she be willing to have a conversation with you, does she seem to be in a good mood or rather distracted? So observe her very well before you go ahead and shower your charm on her.
The judgments that we make about other people are often our personal projections made at that very moment that really tell us more about ourselves than them, so when I ask you to judge others, needless to say, I use this phrase with caution.
If someone appears to be rather unsociable at the moment, please don’t judge them to be prideful or arrogant, chances are that that person is purposely setting up a social boundary around themselves to take care of themselves.
We do not know what the other person must have been through so act responsibly.
Similarly, if a person appears to be too friendly and extroverted and their behavior triggers a traumatic experience within you where you felt rather shut off.
So please don’t let your superficial judgments and observations take charge of your actions.
3. Try to do it with a Wingwoman
For some people, it’s easy to just walk into a bar or a club all alone and strike a conversation with the utmost confidence and pick up a girl right away. But the others rely on having a wingman who eases the tension between the two.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to have a wingman, but think about it, what’s more important than having a wingman? A wing woman of course! As the name suggests, a “wing woman” is basically a female friend who accompanies you and helps you approach girls and strike up a great conversation.
Having your bro by your side is good, but having a girl by your side is inherently better.
Having a girl accompany you is the ultimate proof that you are safe and approachable for other girls to approach her as well.
aving a good repo with girls is indicative that you’re capable of being friends with a girl and don’t behave inappropriately.
This also indicates that the guys are able to distinguish what he needs is a friend and what he needs from a relationship so when such a guy approaches her, she knows for a fact that the guy knows what he needs and is apparently a keeper.
I hope that this article was helpful and has helped you have a much better understanding of what to keep in mind when approaching a woman and how to make it big in a single attempt.
Albeit, also a better perspective as to what’s going on in the girl’s mind and help you understand girls even better.